Gaslighting is a common and very misunderstood form of manipulation and a form of control where the victim begins to question reality. For example, your parents might insist some trauma in your childhood never happened. Gaslighting will cause some of the biggest fights you’ll ever have in a relationship. It comes from the 1938 play, aptly named “Gas Light”. It features a controlling husband who keeps moving objects in their home while his wife is away. Is gaslighting common to men only ?